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Transgender Identity in children

Transgender Identity in children

An insight on how it feels to be different at a young age

Many of us have somewhat of an idea of how it feels to be different. Maybe we have been bullied early on in our lives or have had difficulty getting along with our peers. But have you ever wondered how it felt to be a child feeling shut out simply because you were born in the wrong body? To be told at a very young age that you should not exist and that your identity must be what you were assigned at birth.

Many of these issues are experienced by a growing number of trans-identified children in our society at present time. Many are confused and afraid of how they feel based on their gender identity. There have been studies that children as young as 3 years of age have started identifying as the gender opposite of what they were assigned at birth, but all of that quickly can become tarnished with shame and fear by the judgement of parents. Fear can become isolating to the true identity of that child.

At a young age, children can become very anxious and stressed with out being aware of these feelings. A child’s mind is innocent, curious and craves knowledge of the unknown. For a child, there is no bias on whether it is better to be a boy or a girl, they just simply feel and identify as to what they feel they are. A recent story covered was of a 3 year old in Berkeley, CA named Thomas who had a speech impediment and he signed to himself, “I am a girl.”

Oh look, he’s confused,” his parents said. Maybe he mixed up the signs for boy and girl. So they signed back. “No, no. Thomas is a boy.”

Regardless of what gender Thomas was assigned at birth, and that he was physically male, the toddler felt that he is a girl. Even being bullied in school and teased by his peers, he simply told them that he will always be a girl and that’s what he is.  Such a strong and powerful statement coming form a child. Having to stand by what Thomas felt was the right gender he wanted to be identified as.

When children like Thomas insist that their gender identity is different from which they are assigned at birth, there becomes a disconnect between their sex (which is anatomy) and gender, which includes activities, roles, and behavior. Thomas’ parents have allowed her to live her life as a girl, raised her as a girl and has since been called Tammy. Tammy is now 11 years of age.

When children insist they are a different gender early on, for the parents there can be a lot of judgement and fear; it can send the family to a lot of confusion since transgenderism is clouded by a lot stigma, very misunderstood and are feared by many; This sends parents at a tough predicament for majority yearn for what is the best for their child.  As a protective mechanism, parents at most times are forced to apply those same fears and judgements towards their children who they feel is doing the wrong thing and having the wrong ideas.

Gender identity falls under a very wide and complicated umbrella. There are over 50 different gender identities today in which people can identify and use. Many also confuse gender identity with sexual orientation which are two different things. Gender Identity is who we are and sexual orientation is who we want to have sex with. Simple as that. In Tammy’s case, a 3 year old will probably not want to have sex with anyone, so her gender identity is clearly driven by who she naturally is.

As a society we must be open to new and endless possibilities. In order to truly crush hatred and stigma, we must support our youth for they are the future of this world. Like Tammy’s parents, they seen their child’s future as who she truly wanted to be. Gender maybe a very complicated and scary subject, but that is only because of the fear our society has generated with labels in regards to gender identity and sexual orientation. We must extinguish that fear and have an open mind especially for our youth. Let us be supportive of the next generation and take the next step in acceptancing a third gender:TRANSGENDER.

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Healthy eats!

Hi everyone! You know that I started living a very healthy lifestyle. That doesn’t just include working out and going to the gym everyday, but also eating healthy and meditating. And also taking an inventory of your life continuisly and know who are worth keeping and who gots to go out the front door. No need for bs and no need for negative energy in our lives. :)

To go along with my workouts, I have also been eating clean. Eating clean means eating all organic, fresh and natural ingredients. I also incorporate supplements into my diet and these suplements include spirulina, fish oil and whey protein isolate.

Spirulina is a super food that comes from blue algae. It sounds gross and may even taste gross to some but it is packed with tons of antioxidants, vitamins and protein. I usually use a tablespoon of spirulina powder which you can get at your health store and mix it into my morning fruit smoothies. This is how I make my green smoothies since the spirulina will turn your smoothie super green! :).

Second is Fish oil. Now I never was a big fan of fish. Not because I didn’t like the taste but because industrial fishing really is destroying our ocean and planet :(. I know most of you or maybe just some do not care, but I do. So I just try to spend the extra buck by buying line-caught salmon, mackerel, or sardines. These fishies are super rich in Omega 3- fatty acids which help with healing sore muscles and joints. I usually get line caught canned sardines in olive oil and squeeze a lemon over it served with a side of steamed brocolli and half cup of brown rice.. Hmm yummy!!!!! Yes! :p Just for a quick meal tip.

Third is whey protein isolate. Ihave been lifting a lot and I have actually set up a plan to work out each different muscle group split out of the rest of the week. So whey protein isolate is really good for muscle recovery as well as energy. I don’t want to be a body builder but this is still good if you would like to shred and have a nice lean and toned body.

Here is a quick simple recipe for a healthy meal! Eat clean! (organic and fresh meals)

Ingredients:

3 organic chicken breasts
2 organic tomatoes on vine (chopped)
Bunch of basil leaves finely chopped
Half of an organic red onion
Himalayan sea salt and fresh ground pepper

Place the chicken in dutch oven or crock pot and season with salt and pepper.

Throw ingredients on top of chicken and let slow cook at 350 degress for 45 minutes. Serve with brown rice. Yummy ;)

It’s just a lazy way to create something tasty! Haha love you all and stay positive.

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How to prepare for anal sex!

Many of us who are first timers in anal sex don’t really know how to properly prepare for anal sex in order for it to be fully enjoyable by us and our partners. There are many ways to enjoy anal sex. The most common anal play include rimming which is the stimulation of the anus by using one’s tongue and penetration which is the insertion of sex toys or the penis.

 

It is crucial that we prepare properly for anal sex as for a lot of us know that the anus is full of bacteria and if we don’ prepare properly, it can not only be embarrassing to make a mess while being penetrated, but also mortifying for the top and the bottom. Who wants poo-poo when it comes to sex? Well those who are into scat, but we are not here to talk about that , we are here to get that buttonhole squeaky clean!

 

If you are new to anal sex and have never had any experience, I suggest going in the shower and try playing with your anus while taking a hot shower or bath. Insert your index finger in there and see where your comfort level is. Try to feel around and see if it is even pleasurable for you. Many men in my opinion love the idea of being penetrated (this is completely normal), but for some once they try it, seems it is not their cup of tea. So it is very important that you find out where your comfort level is before you go to the next step in preparing to play with some bigger toys or for someone to penetrate you anally.

 

 

There are 2 ways to prepare for anal play which I will be discussing each one and its benefits. Properly preparing not only includes doing an enema, but diet also plays a big factor in making sure that you don’t have an accident while having anal sex. For example, you wouldn’t want to be eating a burrito before having anal sex or have anything to eat right before you have deep anal play. These things are just to take into consideration because like I said earlier, who wants poo-poo during sex?? Certainly not I…. For example, If I know I will be on set shooting an adult film and I will be shooting with my partner who is obviously very well endowed, I wont have anything to eat at least 10 hours before the shoot. Just like if my doctor recommended not having a meal prior to surgery. But my trick for this is eating “gummy bears,” for these are absorbed by the body and quickly fills you up. Now if you have already eaten and you decide your horny and want someone to pound that ass… Well here is my suggestion.

 

Preparing for anal sex using a bulb anal douche:

 

You can get this at any sex store. They are very open minded in sex stores so If you have no idea what it looks like then just ask the clerk and they will be happy to help you. If you do not have a sex store available near you , just go to your local pharmacy and ask for an enema.

 

Step One:

Fill the bulb douche with warm water. (make sure it is warm and not hot! About 90 degrees is what I prefer.. Hell as long as it’s warm and not scorching your hands.) After filling the douche with water, screw the tip back on and apply lubrication on the tip of the nozzle. This will help insert the nozzle easier into your anus.

 

Step Two:

Get on all fours and try to have your head against the floor with your butt high up. this will help the water go deeper into your rectal cavity. Insert the nozzle all the way into your anus and try to squeeze your anus while the nozzle is inserted.

 

 

 

Step Three:

Squeeze the bulb and you will feel the water fill your inside. Try to squeeze the bulb all the way and while you are squeezing your anus, pull out the nozzle.

 

Step Four:

Keep the water in you for about 5 minutes or until you can not hold it in anymore. Then sit on the toilet and release.

 

Step Five:

Repeat steps one through four until the water coming out is the same color as it is going in.

 

This is just a quick cleaning of your bowels for some safe anal play. This type of cleaning is not for fisting or any deep anal penetration. If you are planning on doing some deep anal penetration I suggest taking the next steps in preparing.

 

For those of you anal queens like me, you can get a portable medical grade anal douche which holds about 1-2 gallons of water with a nozzle and water stopper. You can also get one from the sex store or online.  Its is the same steps as above, but this douche will just insert more water into your bowels for a deep cleansing. It is definitely a master cleanse and I only suggest this type of cleanse if you are an anal connoisseur.

 

Step One:

Fill the douche bag with warm water. It holds about one gallon or two. Make sure the stopper attached to the line that connects to the nozzle is pinched so the water will not gush all over the place. Place the douche high up, usually you can hang in on a towel bar in the bathroom next to the toilet.

 

Step Two:

Get on all fours and try to have your head against the floor with your butt high up. this will help the water go deeper into your rectal cavity. Insert the nozzle all the way into your anus and try to squeeze your anus while the nozzle is inserted. (Insert only the nozzle and not the tube that connects to the nozzle and the douche bag)

 

 

Step Three:

Release the water stopper and feel the water filling you up. You can count to about 7 seconds and then pinch the water stopper again and take out the nozzle. Try to hold the water in until you can no longer hold it and release in toilet bowl. **FLUSH**

 

Step Four:

After doing steps one through three for about 4 times, pause for about 30 minutes without any water in your bowels and just walk around the house or do some jumping jacks. This will help release some water deep inside your bowels. Remember this is some major anal cleaning you  are doing so you are cleaning the deep insides of your colon.

 

Step Five:

Once 30 minutes is over sit on the toilet again and try to release any left over water. Then repeat steps one through four until the water coming out is the same color as it is going in.

 

This cleansing is good for preparing for a hardcore anal scene, going out with a date at night and planning on taking them home and having anal sex or getting FISTED! That’s right! If done right you will thank me after. Make sure you follow the steps thoroughly and have fun!

 

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Dating and why it’s complicated: The problems of an insatiable slut

So I created this profile on an online dating site temporarily just to pass some time. Let’s be honest.. It is quite entertaining and I find it helpful in boosting my self-esteem by seeing how many guys reply to my profile and message me. Well temporarily boosts my self-esteem because sooner or later, I find all the guys that message me have one common denominator: SEX. Is it because I state on my profile that I am a transsexual? Or is it my main picture exposing my cleavage and looking up at the camera with my “come fuck me” look.

Don’t get me wrong.. I would love to be in a monogamous relationship. But how can I be in a monogamous relationship if all guys want is to have sex? When guys message me, it usually starts with,  “Hello, wow! You are beautiful! I am not gay, but I think you are hot!”

Or “Wow! Good job! You really fooled me! Have you had the surgery yet?”

Based on my experiences with men, the moment that I start opening up about my gender and being a transsexual, the energy towards me changes, the conversation instantly becomes sexual and oozes “let’s get it on!”

This would only be okay if once I did have sex with someone and it was followed with cuddling and laughs. But in most cases guys just want to hit it and quit it followed by a 2am text of, “What’s up, what are you doing?” on a Saturday night.  This gets really old after a while and it gets quite depressing.

I recently met a guy at the gym I go to everyday and we happened to exchange numbers. I opened up to him and said that I am transgender. Immediately he is inviting himself over to my place and I have not even known this guy for  more than two days. Do guys think that just because we were assigned male at birth that we may also think about sex 24 hours a day… think about SEX all the time? Well I know I do.. Maybe not 24 hours, but I think about sex a lot! Of course I did not invite him over, but I was tempted.

I really wish that SEX was a lot more meaningless to me and I can just have major orgies all day with random guys (and I have thought about it), but I am also a human being who longs compassion and affection.  Not only that being a big busty Trans woman complicate my love life, but also being an award winning anal whore.  I guess I can’t turn back time and un-fists my hole now can I? Guess not….

I have been in the adult industry for 3 years now and my last relationship, which was 2 years ago, resulted in my boyfriend at the time stealing all my LV purses. I am not going to go into detail, but I just want to find a good man. A good man, with a job, who is a dominant top with a big cock, tall, funny, smart, empathetic, and not a Tranny Chaser.

OKAY…..

Maybe my standards are really high, but why shouldn’t it be?

Photo on 4-27-14 at 5_Fotor

Photo on 4-27-14 at 51_Fotor

 

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EXXXOTICA ATLANTIC CITY

Well guys here I am recollecting what has happened over the weekend in Atlantic City, NJ. I am sitting in PHL airport thinking to myself how blessed I am to be able to make a career out of porn. While I am typing this, my asshole is also throbbing from a hardcore pounding from Moster Cock Ramon yesterday afternoon. I shot a scene for a new series that Trans500 will be coming out with real soon, I can’t really go much into detail but it is something to really look forward to and I know it will be a big hit!  It features the IKillitts.com idea where Ramon just really pounds the living soul out of a girls bum and really focuses on Ramon’s silly, funny and rambunctious character. I feel really ashamed for Ramon told me after the scene that he has never met a girl with an asshole as loose as mine (although he said it in a flattering way), I really am not that loose. I just happen to know how to really open up the doors to my secret cave.(haha) What can I say? I have an award winning asshole.

 

So the weekend was very productive, I spent two days at the actual Exxxotica event promoting TSDREAMDATES.COM and Trans500.com. I practically almost sold all my dvd’s. My fans were super supportive and I never realized I have so many fans of different ages and gender. What surprised me most was that I had more female fans than male fans. This was really flattering and awesome at the same time. Or it may just be the fact that most women are more open and accepting of what they like sexually and really DGAF.

During the event I was able to meet some of my idols and icons in the industry. I met Tera Patrick through my best friend who is also in the industry and she was so friendly and cool. Tera is one of my idols since I was a teenager, I remember thinking I want to be just like her and be as glamorous as she is. I also met Nina Hartley who is truly legendary in the industry and Evan Stone who I used to jerk off to as a teenager. (LOL) It was really weird because here I am standing next to a guy I used to watch and masturbate to as a teenager.

One of the highlights of my trip was not only being able to meet some of my amazing fans but also being picked by my fans to be the winner of the Fanny’s “TS I Love U’ award at the fanny’s award event. I was so surprised I won and didn’t think so many people would actually vote for me. I am really thankful that I have such loving and supportive fans. I promise I will keep shoving huge things in my butt for your enjoyment.

 

This trip was really a blessing and there will be more to come this year. I will continue to work hard in this industry and continue to be grateful.

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The Fannys

Hello everyone and good morning. As I am getting ready for my run I decided to write about another upcoming award, The Fannys 2014. Yes! This award is entirely up to you guys and is in your hands (vote for me here). It will take place on 4.12.2014 at the EXXXOTICA event in Atlantic City, NJ Taj Mahal hotel which I will be attending April 11th until April 13th. Now, not to toot my own horn or anything but if there was a horn I would probably shove it up my ass for your enjoyment. There I said it so you better vote for me because you know my ass will swallow you if you don’t! Love you!!!!

 

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Eva

 

 

BLOG UPDATE!

Hello everyone and welcome to my new blog! I feel happy that I am able to create my own blog space with my own domain, to be able to talk about my life, relationships and career. I apologize that I haven’t written on my previous blog for quite some time since I have had some really tough decisions I had to make in my business ventures. So that has taken me back a bit and kept me really busy.

I want to talk about what I have been up to as of lately. In a nut shell, I have been signed into an exclusive contract with TRANS500.com and we have been working non-stop on some really cool projects to come. One of which is TSDREAMDATES.com where you guys can sign up and win a date with me! I am really excited about this and the date will take place in June. You will just have to take care of the plane ticket to Miami, FL and my studio will take care of the rest. We will go out to a nice dinner and enjoy each others company for a night filled with laughs and intimate conversations.  You even have a chance to opt in to do a scene with me (in consideration that you will be able to preform).*smiles*

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I have also worked on a solo scene for TRANSATPLAY.com which was released yesterday. The scene is one of my best solos scenes I have ever done. I was really planning on shooting a hardcore scene with another T-girl that day , but due to “technical” difficulties I ended up just shooting a solo set which was awesome. I ended up really tearing another hole into my ass-pussy and at one point, I even shoved 2 toys in my butt. HA! They don’t call it an award winning asshole for no reason =p. (sorry Asa you are not the only one)

 

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I have been busy in my new home in Las Vegas, NV. I have been working a ton from home doing my web cam  modeling everyday. Everyday, unless of course I am shooting or traveling, I am on cam on SHEMALE.COM from 2pm PST until 6 pm PST. I am also blogging and writing an article for the next three months on the shemale.com magazine so don’t forget to check it out!

As you can see I have been super busy with my career and this year has really been awesome for me. I am so thankful for all of you and all of your support! I love all of you guys and make sure to sign up on TSDREAMDATES.com

 

 

 

TS Pussy Hunters 1 YEAR!

Hello everyone! Last month was the celebration of kink.com’s Ts Pussy Hunters site. I am honored to be a part of the celebration shoot which also stars Venus Lux, Jessica Fox and Maitresse Madelleine. The shoot starts off with all the kink directors getting arrested for obscenity and getting reprimanded for it. One of the directors is Maitresse Madelleine and is she in for a big surprise. Little doe she know that there are 3 beautiful TS women ready to have their way with her (of course one of the three includes myself). After the officials arrest Madelleine, they take her to a house somewhere in the Bay Area and there two of my beautiful SHE-MALE associates and I are waiting for her. Once she enters the door and sees us, she realizes that the arrest was just a plot to get her vulnerable enough to be under our custody and ready to be out filthy sub-whore. We start off with Jessica Fox and I being serviced orally by Venus Lux. When Maitresse arrives we just take her down and go in for lots of pussy and face slapping, spitting, double penetration, pussy fucking, feet worship and ass worship. This shoot is a must see and I am thankful to be a part of this fuck brawl to celebrate the one year of the successful site.

 

 

Kink.com shoot with Casey

Hello everyone! Last month I shot a very hot scene for kink.com in San Francisco. The shoot was very hot and steamy and it was my partners first time shooting with any TS girls. I am happy to have taken his virginity that day! =)

The plot of the scene was I am a damsel on a vacation in the woods. Casey, my partner, was to play a fireman patrol who seeks to warn all of the residents in the area that the wildfire warning is on high alert and we are to evacuate immediately. Obviously I was not happy with this so I use my charm and seductive persona to lure him into my cabin and have my way with him. It was pretty fun! It’s always fun to take someone’s virginity =). I am sure a lot of you would enjoy this shoot as much as I enjoyed fucking Casey’s hot hole! =)

 

 

 

Paris Part 2

Hello everyone! This is the second part of my trip to Paris. As I mention in the previous post, I had such a blast being on my mini vacation to Europe. It felt great to just get away and be detached from everything that I have in America. It was such a totally relaxing experience.

One of the best experiences I had in France was just taking a day to walk around, check out cafes, and take the train everywhere and to see where it takes me. I am such a spontaneous and free-spirited woman that I like to take risks that way. I do have to admit that I got lost a couple of times and the language barrier sucked, but it was still fairly easy to communicate with people since I have a cheat sheet with some of the french basics. It was like the time when I went to Colombia and I did not know how to communicate with anyone although I knew how to speak a little Spanish. But that is the point of traveling right? Being able to experience a culture and just be open to everything that comes your way. Well my idea of traveling that is. HahaNotre Dame

 

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“Lover’s Bridge”

While I was in Paris, I stumbled upon the lover’s bridge and I decided to write my regular name “Kayla” with my Performer name “Eva” and made a pact to always have a bond with myself. Never forget where I came from and always remember who I really am.