Transsexual Dating for Dummies
The basics of dating a transsexual woman
Many of you have wondered what it’s like to date a transsexual woman. Well here is a guide on the basics on what to expect when dating a woman who is a little different that your average Jane. The purpose of this article to give you some insight on what to expect when dating transsexuals. The basics on proper grammar, etiquette and behavior.
I will list some of the basic questions and concerns that men have when thinking of dating a transsexual woman also I will state some the “NO NO’s” that should be taken into consideration.
Saying the word “Tranny” to a transsexual.
This term is very offensive to some transsexual individuals. People should be more sensitive and Transgender or transsexual are the right terms to be used. Or “T-Girl” for short.
2. Asking about surgeries is totally rude and inappropriate!
When I have met guys for the first time or have gone on dates with them, many ask inappropriate questions such as surgeries. Many men believe it is okay to ask whether our breasts are real, whether we have gotten sexual reassignment surgery (sex change) or facial surgeries. People need to understand that transsexuals are humans too not a lab rat that you can dissect with offensive and personal questions.
3. Never say “I see you as a woman” or “There is no way you were born a man,”
Transsexual women were assigned male at birth. We have always been women but had no choice but to lead lives that society forced upon us until we were brave enough to come out of our shell . When men tell me these comments it tells me that even though they tell me they see me as a woman, it still leaves a connotation that a part of me in their eyes is not what a perceive to be. Kind of like a back handed compliment. I just want to tell people that even though most of you don’t mean to offend, it still is offensive.
4. Asking us whether we think you are “GAY” for liking us.
We have spent all of our lives being judged by people and obviously we took that leap to face the world and were courageous enough to not care what anyone says. So going back to #3 on the list, when men say they see us as women then comment on how they have to question their sexuality with our help, doesn’t do any good for our psyche. Men just need to be comfortable in their own skin and know that they are dating women PERIOD! Thee fact that Transsexual women transition and have to fight to be women make us more women than most genetic women out there.
5. Asking us sexual questions….
Whenever I date men, they seem to think that just because in their minds I was born male and assigned male at birth that I think just like they do. That I am constantly thinking about sex. This is not the case gentlemen. Transsexual women are wired differently. We think differently and we are much more sensitive than your average woman. Because of the hormone therapy and psychological abuse that we have to go through just to be ourselves in society. Keep in mind that we are ladies and ladies should be treated with respect!
So these are the 5 basics on what to keep in mind when it comes to dating a transsexual woman. Remember to be mindful of your words and be a gentleman. Us transsexual women love chivalry and appreciate a good man. So if you are just wondering what to expect when it comes to dating us I hope this short guide helps.