Transgender Identity in children

Transgender Identity in children

An insight on how it feels to be different at a young age

Many of us have somewhat of an idea of how it feels to be different. Maybe we have been bullied early on in our lives or have had difficulty getting along with our peers. But have you ever wondered how it felt to be a child feeling shut out simply because you were born in the wrong body? To be told at a very young age that you should not exist and that your identity must be what you were assigned at birth.

Many of these issues are experienced by a growing number of trans-identified children in our society at present time. Many are confused and afraid of how they feel based on their gender identity. There have been studies that children as young as 3 years of age have started identifying as the gender opposite of what they were assigned at birth, but all of that quickly can become tarnished with shame and fear by the judgement of parents. Fear can become isolating to the true identity of that child.

At a young age, children can become very anxious and stressed with out being aware of these feelings. A child’s mind is innocent, curious and craves knowledge of the unknown. For a child, there is no bias on whether it is better to be a boy or a girl, they just simply feel and identify as to what they feel they are. A recent story covered was of a 3 year old in Berkeley, CA named Thomas who had a speech impediment and he signed to himself, “I am a girl.”

Oh look, he’s confused,” his parents said. Maybe he mixed up the signs for boy and girl. So they signed back. “No, no. Thomas is a boy.”

Regardless of what gender Thomas was assigned at birth, and that he was physically male, the toddler felt that he is a girl. Even being bullied in school and teased by his peers, he simply told them that he will always be a girl and that’s what he is.  Such a strong and powerful statement coming form a child. Having to stand by what Thomas felt was the right gender he wanted to be identified as.

When children like Thomas insist that their gender identity is different from which they are assigned at birth, there becomes a disconnect between their sex (which is anatomy) and gender, which includes activities, roles, and behavior. Thomas’ parents have allowed her to live her life as a girl, raised her as a girl and has since been called Tammy. Tammy is now 11 years of age.

When children insist they are a different gender early on, for the parents there can be a lot of judgement and fear; it can send the family to a lot of confusion since transgenderism is clouded by a lot stigma, very misunderstood and are feared by many; This sends parents at a tough predicament for majority yearn for what is the best for their child.  As a protective mechanism, parents at most times are forced to apply those same fears and judgements towards their children who they feel is doing the wrong thing and having the wrong ideas.

Gender identity falls under a very wide and complicated umbrella. There are over 50 different gender identities today in which people can identify and use. Many also confuse gender identity with sexual orientation which are two different things. Gender Identity is who we are and sexual orientation is who we want to have sex with. Simple as that. In Tammy’s case, a 3 year old will probably not want to have sex with anyone, so her gender identity is clearly driven by who she naturally is.

As a society we must be open to new and endless possibilities. In order to truly crush hatred and stigma, we must support our youth for they are the future of this world. Like Tammy’s parents, they seen their child’s future as who she truly wanted to be. Gender maybe a very complicated and scary subject, but that is only because of the fear our society has generated with labels in regards to gender identity and sexual orientation. We must extinguish that fear and have an open mind especially for our youth. Let us be supportive of the next generation and take the next step in acceptancing a third gender:TRANSGENDER.

Transsexual Dating for Dummies

Transsexual Dating for Dummies

The basics of dating a transsexual woman

Many of you have wondered what it’s like to date a transsexual woman. Well here is a guide on the basics on what to expect when dating a woman who is a little different that your average Jane. The purpose of this article to give you some insight on what to expect when dating transsexuals. The basics on proper grammar, etiquette and behavior.

I will list some of the basic questions and concerns that men have when thinking of dating a transsexual woman  also I will state some the “NO NO’s” that should be taken into consideration.

Saying the word “Tranny” to a transsexual.

      This term is very offensive to some transsexual individuals. People should be more sensitive and Transgender or transsexual are the right terms to be used. Or “T-Girl” for short.

2.   Asking about surgeries is totally rude and inappropriate!

  When I have met guys for the first time or have gone on dates with them, many ask inappropriate questions such as surgeries. Many men believe it is okay to ask whether our breasts are real, whether we have gotten sexual reassignment surgery (sex change) or facial surgeries. People need to understand that transsexuals are humans too not a lab rat that you can dissect with offensive and personal questions.

3.   Never say “I see you as a woman” or “There is no way you were born a man,”

  Transsexual women were assigned male at birth. We have always been women but had no choice but to lead lives that society forced upon us until we were brave enough to come out of our shell . When men tell me these comments it tells me that even though they tell me they see me as a woman,  it still leaves a connotation that a part of me in their eyes is not what a perceive to be. Kind of like a back handed compliment. I just want to tell people that even though most of you don’t mean to offend, it still is offensive.

4. Asking us whether we think you are “GAY” for liking us.

     We have spent all of our lives being judged by people and obviously we took that leap to face the world and were courageous enough to not care what anyone says. So going back to #3 on the list, when men say they see us as women then comment on how they have to question their sexuality with our help, doesn’t do any good for our psyche. Men just need to be comfortable in their own skin and know that they are dating women PERIOD! Thee fact that Transsexual women transition and have to fight to be women make us more women than most genetic women out there.

5. Asking us sexual questions….

Whenever I date men, they seem to think that just because in their minds I was born male and assigned male at birth that I think just like they do. That I am constantly thinking about sex. This is not the case gentlemen. Transsexual women are wired differently. We think differently and we are much more sensitive than your average woman. Because of the hormone therapy and psychological abuse that we have to go through just to be ourselves in society. Keep in mind that we are ladies and ladies should be treated with respect!

So these are the 5 basics on what to keep in mind when it comes to dating a transsexual woman. Remember to be mindful of your words and be a gentleman. Us transsexual women love chivalry and appreciate a good man. So if you are just wondering what to expect when it comes to dating us I hope this short guide helps.

XOXO

EVA

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Healthy eats!

Hi everyone! You know that I started living a very healthy lifestyle. That doesn’t just include working out and going to the gym everyday, but also eating healthy and meditating. And also taking an inventory of your life continuisly and know who are worth keeping and who gots to go out the front door. No need for bs and no need for negative energy in our lives. :)

To go along with my workouts, I have also been eating clean. Eating clean means eating all organic, fresh and natural ingredients. I also incorporate supplements into my diet and these suplements include spirulina, fish oil and whey protein isolate.

Spirulina is a super food that comes from blue algae. It sounds gross and may even taste gross to some but it is packed with tons of antioxidants, vitamins and protein. I usually use a tablespoon of spirulina powder which you can get at your health store and mix it into my morning fruit smoothies. This is how I make my green smoothies since the spirulina will turn your smoothie super green! :).

Second is Fish oil. Now I never was a big fan of fish. Not because I didn’t like the taste but because industrial fishing really is destroying our ocean and planet :(. I know most of you or maybe just some do not care, but I do. So I just try to spend the extra buck by buying line-caught salmon, mackerel, or sardines. These fishies are super rich in Omega 3- fatty acids which help with healing sore muscles and joints. I usually get line caught canned sardines in olive oil and squeeze a lemon over it served with a side of steamed brocolli and half cup of brown rice.. Hmm yummy!!!!! Yes! :p Just for a quick meal tip.

Third is whey protein isolate. Ihave been lifting a lot and I have actually set up a plan to work out each different muscle group split out of the rest of the week. So whey protein isolate is really good for muscle recovery as well as energy. I don’t want to be a body builder but this is still good if you would like to shred and have a nice lean and toned body.

Here is a quick simple recipe for a healthy meal! Eat clean! (organic and fresh meals)

Ingredients:

3 organic chicken breasts
2 organic tomatoes on vine (chopped)
Bunch of basil leaves finely chopped
Half of an organic red onion
Himalayan sea salt and fresh ground pepper

Place the chicken in dutch oven or crock pot and season with salt and pepper.

Throw ingredients on top of chicken and let slow cook at 350 degress for 45 minutes. Serve with brown rice. Yummy ;)

It’s just a lazy way to create something tasty! Haha love you all and stay positive.

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How to prepare for anal sex!

Many of us who are first timers in anal sex don’t really know how to properly prepare for anal sex in order for it to be fully enjoyable by us and our partners. There are many ways to enjoy anal sex. The most common anal play include rimming which is the stimulation of the anus by using one’s tongue and penetration which is the insertion of sex toys or the penis.

 

It is crucial that we prepare properly for anal sex as for a lot of us know that the anus is full of bacteria and if we don’ prepare properly, it can not only be embarrassing to make a mess while being penetrated, but also mortifying for the top and the bottom. Who wants poo-poo when it comes to sex? Well those who are into scat, but we are not here to talk about that , we are here to get that buttonhole squeaky clean!

 

If you are new to anal sex and have never had any experience, I suggest going in the shower and try playing with your anus while taking a hot shower or bath. Insert your index finger in there and see where your comfort level is. Try to feel around and see if it is even pleasurable for you. Many men in my opinion love the idea of being penetrated (this is completely normal), but for some once they try it, seems it is not their cup of tea. So it is very important that you find out where your comfort level is before you go to the next step in preparing to play with some bigger toys or for someone to penetrate you anally.

 

 

There are 2 ways to prepare for anal play which I will be discussing each one and its benefits. Properly preparing not only includes doing an enema, but diet also plays a big factor in making sure that you don’t have an accident while having anal sex. For example, you wouldn’t want to be eating a burrito before having anal sex or have anything to eat right before you have deep anal play. These things are just to take into consideration because like I said earlier, who wants poo-poo during sex?? Certainly not I…. For example, If I know I will be on set shooting an adult film and I will be shooting with my partner who is obviously very well endowed, I wont have anything to eat at least 10 hours before the shoot. Just like if my doctor recommended not having a meal prior to surgery. But my trick for this is eating “gummy bears,” for these are absorbed by the body and quickly fills you up. Now if you have already eaten and you decide your horny and want someone to pound that ass… Well here is my suggestion.

 

Preparing for anal sex using a bulb anal douche:

 

You can get this at any sex store. They are very open minded in sex stores so If you have no idea what it looks like then just ask the clerk and they will be happy to help you. If you do not have a sex store available near you , just go to your local pharmacy and ask for an enema.

 

Step One:

Fill the bulb douche with warm water. (make sure it is warm and not hot! About 90 degrees is what I prefer.. Hell as long as it’s warm and not scorching your hands.) After filling the douche with water, screw the tip back on and apply lubrication on the tip of the nozzle. This will help insert the nozzle easier into your anus.

 

Step Two:

Get on all fours and try to have your head against the floor with your butt high up. this will help the water go deeper into your rectal cavity. Insert the nozzle all the way into your anus and try to squeeze your anus while the nozzle is inserted.

 

 

 

Step Three:

Squeeze the bulb and you will feel the water fill your inside. Try to squeeze the bulb all the way and while you are squeezing your anus, pull out the nozzle.

 

Step Four:

Keep the water in you for about 5 minutes or until you can not hold it in anymore. Then sit on the toilet and release.

 

Step Five:

Repeat steps one through four until the water coming out is the same color as it is going in.

 

This is just a quick cleaning of your bowels for some safe anal play. This type of cleaning is not for fisting or any deep anal penetration. If you are planning on doing some deep anal penetration I suggest taking the next steps in preparing.

 

For those of you anal queens like me, you can get a portable medical grade anal douche which holds about 1-2 gallons of water with a nozzle and water stopper. You can also get one from the sex store or online.  Its is the same steps as above, but this douche will just insert more water into your bowels for a deep cleansing. It is definitely a master cleanse and I only suggest this type of cleanse if you are an anal connoisseur.

 

Step One:

Fill the douche bag with warm water. It holds about one gallon or two. Make sure the stopper attached to the line that connects to the nozzle is pinched so the water will not gush all over the place. Place the douche high up, usually you can hang in on a towel bar in the bathroom next to the toilet.

 

Step Two:

Get on all fours and try to have your head against the floor with your butt high up. this will help the water go deeper into your rectal cavity. Insert the nozzle all the way into your anus and try to squeeze your anus while the nozzle is inserted. (Insert only the nozzle and not the tube that connects to the nozzle and the douche bag)

 

 

Step Three:

Release the water stopper and feel the water filling you up. You can count to about 7 seconds and then pinch the water stopper again and take out the nozzle. Try to hold the water in until you can no longer hold it and release in toilet bowl. **FLUSH**

 

Step Four:

After doing steps one through three for about 4 times, pause for about 30 minutes without any water in your bowels and just walk around the house or do some jumping jacks. This will help release some water deep inside your bowels. Remember this is some major anal cleaning you  are doing so you are cleaning the deep insides of your colon.

 

Step Five:

Once 30 minutes is over sit on the toilet again and try to release any left over water. Then repeat steps one through four until the water coming out is the same color as it is going in.

 

This cleansing is good for preparing for a hardcore anal scene, going out with a date at night and planning on taking them home and having anal sex or getting FISTED! That’s right! If done right you will thank me after. Make sure you follow the steps thoroughly and have fun!

 

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EXXXOTICA Ft. Lauderdale

Hi Guys! I am on my way back to Las Vegas from my EXXXOTICA trip in Ft. Lauderdale. I had such a great time at EXXXOTICA. I was able to meet more people inn the industry and I am really happy from all the love that were shown towards me by the industry. Some of the same people that were in EXXXOTICA Atlantic City were also in Ft. Lauderdale. People like Ron Jeremy who was such a sweetheart and actually came up to my booth to say “hello.” I also met superstar actress Roberta Gemma who is really popular in Europe. She is the equivalent to Tera Patrick in Europe and is so beautiful! I was really amazed on how much respect I got from the industry and the people at the expo.

 

I was only at the EXXXXOTICA event for 3 days because it was my birthday on the 4th. So my producer gave me the day off to check out Miami and take some time to relax. One of my old friends from Los Angeles moved to Miami and we were able to touch base and catch up. It was very nice to talk about the good old days of partying in Hollywood and the drama that comes with it. We had an amazing birthday dinner at a place called Prime Fish (I highly recommend this place if you are ever in Miami). My friend and I loaded ourselves on their bread which was the best bread I have ever had LOL. We laughed and stuffed our faces for a couple hours and he showed me his new pad which was right across the street. The older I get it seems the less I tend to celebrate my birthday. It seems it gets less exciting as I am about to hit 30. Yup I am 29 years old ( don’t worry I am not a MILF yet).

 

Many of you don’t know that I am more than just a contract star for Trans500 Studios, I also have become very good friends with producer/director of the studio, Josh Stone. Josh is the best and him and I ate at our favorite restaurant almost every day while I was in Miami. Josh and I love P.F. Changs and we both love the same dish, but I was trying out different dishes for the sake of being able to try different things and not having to order the same thing as him. I really hope I can move to Miami someday. I love my life in Las Vegas, but I can see myself in Miami in the near future. Especially now that I am building my portfolio as a homeowner.

 

I am very thankful for being a part of Trans500 studio family and my producer/director Josh Stone. There has been a lot of hatred from other studios towards Trans500 which is totally understandable, but all I can say is this studio has shown me so much love and respect and have accepted me as a part of their family. Trans500 has treated me more than just a talent that many studios have shown otherwise in this industry. Trans500 has really opened some doors for me in by introducing me to many mainstream people in the industry.

 

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What turns me on and off?

So I have to be honest and talk about what turns me on and off. First off, I am only attracted to men. I know there are a lot of fantasies out there about transbian sex or lesbian sex, but I am afraid to say that MEN are the only ones that turn me on. And not only that men turn me on, but really masculine dominant men turn me on. I love being a submissive little slut for my man.

i am the epitome of the ultimate feminine cliche transsexual who only likes to be submissive with her partner. I love to please my man and don’t get me wrong I also like to be pleasured orally, but the ultimate pleasure for me is getting my partner to climax or orgasm.

What pleasures me most when I am on the receiving end of oral sex is getting my fat T-girl clitty licked and sucked on gently like you would a genetic girl. I love spreading my legs and having my mans sweet face between and going to town on my love spot with his tongue. I also love getting fucked with a big juicy tongue in my sweet, tight t-girl hole.

While I am writing this I am getting so sexually aroused while this person next to me in the first class cabin is taking a nap. Just talking about getting pleasured down there in my soft spot with my legs up in the air and caressing my giant breasts gets me so hot and bothered.

I wish I can be more of the fantasy girl that most people I encounter look for, a dominant and aggressive (TOP) girl. But I would be lying if I said that’s what tickles my fancy. Nothing turns me off more that seeing a masculine guy bending over in front of me telling me to fuck him like a Nancy.

I love being a dirty, submissive little whore or I can just be your little t-girl secret that you visit once in a while when you feel you need to unload into my tight and wet t-girl hole. I always fantasize about a man just having his way with me and making my tight hole bleed with his giant cock. And then seeing his face as he climaxes with pleasure while breeding my sweet tranny hole.

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Dating and why it’s complicated: The problems of an insatiable slut

So I created this profile on an online dating site temporarily just to pass some time. Let’s be honest.. It is quite entertaining and I find it helpful in boosting my self-esteem by seeing how many guys reply to my profile and message me. Well temporarily boosts my self-esteem because sooner or later, I find all the guys that message me have one common denominator: SEX. Is it because I state on my profile that I am a transsexual? Or is it my main picture exposing my cleavage and looking up at the camera with my “come fuck me” look.

Don’t get me wrong.. I would love to be in a monogamous relationship. But how can I be in a monogamous relationship if all guys want is to have sex? When guys message me, it usually starts with,  “Hello, wow! You are beautiful! I am not gay, but I think you are hot!”

Or “Wow! Good job! You really fooled me! Have you had the surgery yet?”

Based on my experiences with men, the moment that I start opening up about my gender and being a transsexual, the energy towards me changes, the conversation instantly becomes sexual and oozes “let’s get it on!”

This would only be okay if once I did have sex with someone and it was followed with cuddling and laughs. But in most cases guys just want to hit it and quit it followed by a 2am text of, “What’s up, what are you doing?” on a Saturday night.  This gets really old after a while and it gets quite depressing.

I recently met a guy at the gym I go to everyday and we happened to exchange numbers. I opened up to him and said that I am transgender. Immediately he is inviting himself over to my place and I have not even known this guy for  more than two days. Do guys think that just because we were assigned male at birth that we may also think about sex 24 hours a day… think about SEX all the time? Well I know I do.. Maybe not 24 hours, but I think about sex a lot! Of course I did not invite him over, but I was tempted.

I really wish that SEX was a lot more meaningless to me and I can just have major orgies all day with random guys (and I have thought about it), but I am also a human being who longs compassion and affection.  Not only that being a big busty Trans woman complicate my love life, but also being an award winning anal whore.  I guess I can’t turn back time and un-fists my hole now can I? Guess not….

I have been in the adult industry for 3 years now and my last relationship, which was 2 years ago, resulted in my boyfriend at the time stealing all my LV purses. I am not going to go into detail, but I just want to find a good man. A good man, with a job, who is a dominant top with a big cock, tall, funny, smart, empathetic, and not a Tranny Chaser.

OKAY…..

Maybe my standards are really high, but why shouldn’t it be?

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Easter in Prague

Happy Easter everyone! It’s about ! am here in the Czech Republic and I am just about to pack all my stuff to get ready for my flight, but I decided to write a little bit about my trip. This trip has been really wonderful as I have never been to Prague  during a holiday. Obviously it is Easter and there was a festival going on for a whole week in Old town Praha. The festival was filled with people from all over the world and lots of great food and little trinkets to enjoy.

During my stay I did a lot of walking around and just people watching. I find this more enlightening than anything else cause I really get to watch people interact. I can also be in the moment while I just walk around, check out the little shops and food stands at the festival, check out cafes and have an espresso with some freshly baked pastries while I listen to the live music and entertainment. I have practically seen all the sights that Prague has to offer so relaxing while giving my palate orgasms with the different variety of goods during the festivities.

During this trip I really took some time to think whether I should get a little apartment in Prague. Since I frequent this magical place quite often for business, I might as well make this my second home. Don’t get me wrong I love the United States and my home in Summerlin, Las Vegas, NV.  But it would be quite a treat to call the Czech Republic as my second home. Well it pretty much is that I come here every month. Well I hope you guys like the pictures that I took form the festival! Enjoy!

 

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EXXXOTICA ATLANTIC CITY

Well guys here I am recollecting what has happened over the weekend in Atlantic City, NJ. I am sitting in PHL airport thinking to myself how blessed I am to be able to make a career out of porn. While I am typing this, my asshole is also throbbing from a hardcore pounding from Moster Cock Ramon yesterday afternoon. I shot a scene for a new series that Trans500 will be coming out with real soon, I can’t really go much into detail but it is something to really look forward to and I know it will be a big hit!  It features the IKillitts.com idea where Ramon just really pounds the living soul out of a girls bum and really focuses on Ramon’s silly, funny and rambunctious character. I feel really ashamed for Ramon told me after the scene that he has never met a girl with an asshole as loose as mine (although he said it in a flattering way), I really am not that loose. I just happen to know how to really open up the doors to my secret cave.(haha) What can I say? I have an award winning asshole.

 

So the weekend was very productive, I spent two days at the actual Exxxotica event promoting TSDREAMDATES.COM and Trans500.com. I practically almost sold all my dvd’s. My fans were super supportive and I never realized I have so many fans of different ages and gender. What surprised me most was that I had more female fans than male fans. This was really flattering and awesome at the same time. Or it may just be the fact that most women are more open and accepting of what they like sexually and really DGAF.

During the event I was able to meet some of my idols and icons in the industry. I met Tera Patrick through my best friend who is also in the industry and she was so friendly and cool. Tera is one of my idols since I was a teenager, I remember thinking I want to be just like her and be as glamorous as she is. I also met Nina Hartley who is truly legendary in the industry and Evan Stone who I used to jerk off to as a teenager. (LOL) It was really weird because here I am standing next to a guy I used to watch and masturbate to as a teenager.

One of the highlights of my trip was not only being able to meet some of my amazing fans but also being picked by my fans to be the winner of the Fanny’s “TS I Love U’ award at the fanny’s award event. I was so surprised I won and didn’t think so many people would actually vote for me. I am really thankful that I have such loving and supportive fans. I promise I will keep shoving huge things in my butt for your enjoyment.

 

This trip was really a blessing and there will be more to come this year. I will continue to work hard in this industry and continue to be grateful.

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